Date night is a popular concept these days, so turning this into a sex night allows for the time and space to really enjoy sex. When time is an issue, knowing that it is not the quality but the quantity of sex can make a real difference, so a sex date is a good way to make the time. This also means that the constant pressure to perform can be reduced, and instead you can focus on creating more meaningful times for sex. Making a plan for sex is not very spontaneous, but it can reap great rewards. Decide on a day and time with your partner and set aside a good few hours for a sex date. Rather than going to a fancy restaurant meet in the bedroom (or any other place you want to have sex.) There are so many things you can do to make this an exciting date.

Make it fun

Once the time and date are settled discuss who is going to bring what to the date. What do you need to set the scene for a few hours of intimate connection? It may be candles, music or other things that will make the night more exciting. A few ideas for your sexy date are:

  • Light scented candles: creating a darker environment causes our pupils to dilate, sending a message to our lover that we are sexually interested in them.
  • Sensual music: setting a tone with music really helps to step out of the stresses of the day and into the anticipation of your sexy night.
  • Massage oils: massage causes our whole body to relax, which is exactly what is required for sexual interest. If we are feeling stressed, sex will be the last thing on our mind. Take turns to give each other a massage to enhance the mood.
  • Sex toys: some people don’t like the idea of sex toys, yet often women are surprised at how much they can change sex. If you don’t like the idea of walking into a sex shop, there are some great stores online who will send your goodies discretely.
  • Eye gazing: spend a few minutes sitting opposite your partner and looking into each other’s eyes. This may seem a bit silly at first and no doubt there will be awkward giggles, but once you get over the initial discomfort, eye gazing can create a beautiful connection.

Sexless sex date

It may seem counter productive, but setting aside a sex date that will not entail sex can be highly arousing. Using all the above ideas, spend a night simply exploring and remembering your partner’s body. Do this with as much curiosity as possible, as if you are seeing and feeling them for the first time, and ask them to do the same with you. Finding other ways to make contact physically will return that element of delight that was present at the beginning of the relationship. Turning your sex date into an exploration of your lover will deepen the sense of love and commitment you feel.

Sexual connection is vital in relationships, and yet often overlooked with the stresses of everyday life. Bringing intimate connection back into your relationship could rejuvenate your relationship, allowing you to feel closer to your partner and more connected.