Porn is a contentious topic among many, with opinions being strong and attitudes fixed. Both men and women may strongly oppose porn, whilst others understand it to be a regular and important aspect within their sex life. There are moral objections to porn based on what it portrays, how the actors might feel, and how viewers might consciously or unconsciously respond to watching porn. As a sex therapist, I see couples that believe many of their sexual problems stem from one party watching porn, and others who believe porn to be an exciting addition during their sex. So where does porn actually lie on the vast spectrum of opinions and attitudes?

Sex therapists may advocate the use of porn, especially for those who are lacking in sexual desire or those have lost interest in sex. Porn can reawaken sexual feelings while enhancing feelings of desire for sex. Watching porn might remind the viewer of their own sexual pleasure and enjoyment, encouraging them to view the world in a more sexual manner. Using porn in this way may assist in increasing sexual desire while offering ideas regarding what may be enjoyable for a particular individual during sex.

On the other hand, many sex therapists do not advocate watching porn for the purpose of learning how to have sex. There is widespread debate over the impact that watching porn might have on young people’s perceptions of sex. Porn seldom depicts a realistic picture of they way men and women respond and behave during sex. Men may watch porn and believe that they are deficient in some way if they cannot mimic the constant and vigorous banging which occurs in many porn films. While many women might feel abnormal if their ability to become orgasmic is not as seamless as porn movies often indicate.

If you are using porn as a healthy tool to enhance your sex life, or as an extension of masturbation, it is important to remember that it is often far from a realistic portrayal of human sex. Which makes sense, as movies are seldom realistic in their portrayal of life. Used moderately and maturely, porn can be a welcome deviation to spice up one’s sex life. However, it may start to become a source of distress or dependence, which is a sure sign that porn is no longer serving your purposes. Remain conscious of your motivations for using porn, if you do, and enjoy the excitement that stems from our sexual curiosity.