Despite the fact that there is often a social expectation that relationships must flow with ease, all couples struggle at some point. Couples often feel as though they have failed in some way if they require sex therapy or relationship counselling, however this can in fact be seen as a success rather than failure.
Seeing a relationship counsellor can significantly improve relationship satisfaction, sexual connection, intimacy, communication and overall wellbeing.
Acknowledging that there are aspects of your relationship that need assistance and seeking external support is a healthy way to ensure the longevity of the relationship. Changing the perspective from a problem focused one to a solution focused one might create the gap needed to seek help, attend to the problems and potentially walk away stronger and clearer than before.
Don’t wait until it is too late, or walk away before it is truly over. Take action and invest in both yourself and your partner.
Opting to see a relationship counsellor is not always an easy choice, and very often one that is made once the relationship has entered dire straits. It is usually by this point when couples really begin to seek an answer as to whether they should continue or not.
It is important to remember that if you are seeking external assistance for a relationship issue, it is a clear indicator that there is still commitment in the relationship, and a desire to make things work.
Often, once the flurry of the honeymoon stage is over it may seem that our partner is another one of life’s interferences, which may be a good indication there is something to learn. We don’t simply choose our partner by chance; we choose them based on a multitude of aspects which reflect who we are and our life’s experiences.
Try as we might to avoid relationship challenges, if we are in a long-term relationship, emotional issues will always arise.
All relationships take hard work and effort at some stage. Going into a relationship is the easy part, but maintaining a relationship to the standard that you desire or require is not as simple. No matter how much personal work each individual has done, there will always be issues that arise simply from differing upbringings or cultural backgrounds.
Going for sex therapy may allow your concerns to be addressed in a manner that fosters connection and satisfaction.
It is never too late to make changes to the way you approach your relationship. If you find yourself lacking interest in your partner, perhaps you aren’t looking closely enough. Creating intimacy takes courage and vulnerability, as well as determination. Getting assistance from a sex therapist could be all it takes to establish a deeper and more intimate connection with your partner.