Relationships

Fine is Not a Feeling

So often when we are feeling angry or resentful and our partner asks how we are we resort to that dreaded word: “FINE!” In addiction counselling there is a well-known adage: when clients say they are feeling fine the retort is usually “FINE stands for F****d up, Insecure, Neurotic and Emotional”, which is a lovely [...]

Dare to go Bare

Make up plays a large role for many women, with some of us unable to leave the house without "putting our face on." However a recent study found that heterosexual men prefer women without make up. What if our flaws are exaggerated by our lack of confidence in ourselves and really aren’t flaws at all? If [...]

The Joys of Mature Love

"Aging is not lost youth but a new stage of opportunity and strength." Betty Friedan (1921-2006)The messages that we receive from the media, society and culture so often tell us that growing older is something to be reversed, if not feared. With all the adverts for anti-aging products, elixirs and potions, one might imagine that [...]

3 Ways Hugs are Healthy

Hugging can be a beautiful interaction between two people, although often I encounter clients who claim to reject hugging with most people. As our society has become more dangerous in so many ways and relationships have become more complex, it seems that allowing ourselves to relax into hugs may feel a little exposing for some. [...]